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How to Use a Simple Way to Get Unstuck and Spark Motivation Now

Feeling stuck is something everyone experiences. It can also take a toll on motivation. Have you felt this way lately?

There can be many reasons you might feel at a standstill, such as:

  • Overwhelm from a big or complex project

  • Perfectionism and the belief that you have to do it “the right way”

  • Decision fatigue that leaves you with little capacity to act

  • Unclear about what to do next

  • Lack of accountability or support

  • Unrealistic expectations about what can be accomplished

  • Fear of failure, success, or making the wrong decision

  • Waiting until you feel motivated

Do any of these sound familiar, or is there another reason holding you back?

 

 

 

The “I Can’t” Mindset

When you get stuck, something psychological can happen. Instead of feeling a sense of agency and believing you will figure things out and move forward, you focus on what isn’t possible or what you can’t do.

The “I Can’t” mindset could be what’s keeping you stuck. You might ruminate or focus on messages like:

  • “This project is so big. I’ll never get it done.”

  • “I don’t know where to start.”

  • “I don’t have the time.”

  • “I don’t have the energy.”

  • “It’s impossible for me to get organized.”

  • “I’ll never catch up.”

  • “I’m afraid I’ll make the wrong decision.”

  • “I need to feel motivated first.”

Are any of these phrases ones you ‘hear’ yourself say? Identifying your unique “I Can’t” provides valuable insight into what’s keeping you blocked.

 

 

 

The Shift That Unlocks You, Builds Momentum, and Sparks Motivation

Mindset is everything. It can make all the difference in how you experience life and in what you do or don’t do. One way to take control of the narrative that hasn’t been working for you is to change the dialogue.

Instead of focusing on what’s not possible or your “I Can’t” list, use one of these possibility-infused questions to work its magic. Some options include:

  • What’s one small step I can take right now?

  • What’s possible today?

  • What’s one thing I can do in the next five minutes?

  • What’s good enough for today?

  • What would make this a little easier?

And if you want an elegantly simple question, here’s one from James Clear that I love:

“What can I do?”

Ask a possibility-focused question to immediately shift your mindset toward a more positive, proactive one. 

What can I do?
— James Clear

The Choice Is Yours

It doesn’t feel good to be stuck. Your internal dialogue strongly shapes whether you stay stuck or move forward. Pay attention to the messages you tell yourself. You have the power to shift the dialogue from “I can’t” to “I can.”

Which phrases help or hurt you? How could a shift in mindset benefit you? How would that shift help you get unstuck? In what ways would it help build your motivation? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed, disorganized, and stuck? Are you struggling with a lack of motivation? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s talk! I’m easy to reach.

Getting organized, cultivating motivation, and reaching your goals are possible, especially with support.

 
 
What Wonderful Things Happen When Reaching Out for Help Is Your Next Step?

Does this sound familiar? You face a challenge that you're constantly thinking about, and it’s negatively impacting your daily life. You’re stuck, feeling like you’re taking action just because you’re dwelling on the problem, yet nothing changes. There’s no progress.

Then you get an idea that, “Hey, maybe someone can help me figure this out.” You’d like to solve it on your own. After all, you’re a capable person who knows how to do a lot. And while that’s a wonderful thing, at this moment in time, you recognize something. You can’t do it all yourself. More importantly, you realize that your best next step is to reach out for help.

You don’t want to ruminate on the problem any longer or have the energy to resolve it on your own. While you’ve been feeling stuck and frustrated, now you’re ready to accept help. This is a fabulous place to be when you can embrace support.

Guess what? I experienced this recently, and it was so liberating. I reached out to people who could help- the plumber and the appliance repair guys. Within a few hours, the problems were diagnosed and fixed. Things that had been bothering me for a while were now no longer an issue. What a big relief!

Here’s to discovering ways to feel calmer, lower stress, and carve out time for what you enjoy most.

 

 

 

Three Benefits of Enlisting Help as Your Next Step

1. Less Bother and Stress

When things work, you don’t give them much thought. It’s life as usual. Things flow easily. However, when they break or aren’t functioning, it can be stressful, bothersome, and costly.

I noticed that the water pressure in our house had been gradually dropping. This affected regular activities such as showering, washing clothes, flushing toilets, and doing the dishes. In addition, when our water bill arrived, it was twice as high as usual.

It took me months to recognize the problem and finally get the help needed to resolve it. Between conversations with my husband and the local Department of Public Works, we diagnosed a small pinhole leak in one of the water pipes. I made an appointment with our plumber, and he fixed it within a few hours.

  

2. More Time to Enjoy

Enlisting help from a pro can free up your time so you can do what you enjoy most. I so appreciate how skilled my husband is at fixing things. However, with his intense work schedule and volunteer commitments, he has limited time.

When certain parts of the refrigerator stopped functioning (ice maker and the water-in-door feature), he was going to check them out. But work and other things made it challenging to have the time to do that. After some time had passed, I decided to call the appliance repair guy. He arrived and, after an hour, got things working again.

Steve and I were able to enjoy the rest of our weekend instead of running back and forth to Home Depot for fridge parts.

You can’t do it all yourself.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVOP™

3. Having Support to Face Challenges

Every time I get a call from a potential client or work with my ongoing clients, it’s clear how much they value not having to face it alone. Their organizational challenges often feel overwhelming and insurmountable.

However, there is a noticeable difference when you seek help from a professional who

  • Cares about your progress

  • Can offer support around your goals

  • Can discuss your specific challenges

  • Can collaborate on solutions

  • Can be there with you throughout your organizational journey

Getting organized can be challenging, and setbacks can happen. However, having support from someone compassionate, knowledgeable, and dedicated to you can greatly enhance your progress. Support isn’t always about doing something for someone. It can also be about walking alongside them.

I am truly grateful to be invited into my clients’ lives and to help them with their goals and organizing challenges.

 

 

 

When Your Next Step Needs Assistance

Are you facing a challenge that might benefit from outside help? What’s been preventing you from seeking that support? Can you describe one benefit of enlisting help?

Which ideas resonate with you most? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.


 

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed or disorganized? Do you want to take your next step but feel stuck or unsure? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s connect! I’m easy to reach.

Moving forward and getting organized are possible, especially with support.

 
 
5 Ways to Easily See What's Possible by Finding Solutions to Your Challenges

Are there many things you want to experience, explore, or accomplish in life? If so, that’s wonderful. However, when you encounter daily challenges, it becomes harder to think about the future and imagine possibilities.

You have the capacity to handle a lot. You can boost your capacity by identifying and addressing a specific challenge you’re facing. Often, just one small tweak is enough to create momentum and open the path for new ideas you couldn’t see before.

Why is that? It’s easy to get stuck in cycles of distress, overwhelm, and frustration. These patterns can cause paralysis and inaction. When you’re in that negative mode, your mind can spiral or shut down. Thinking and dreaming about new possibilities feels out of reach.

There are many ways to open up the ‘what’s possible’ path. Depending on your preferences and situation, choose the strategy that will be most effective for you.

 

 

 

5 Ways to Easily See What’s Possible by Finding Solutions to Your Challenges

1. Identify the Hiccups

One of my favorite methods to prepare for possibilities is by making a list of the hiccups you encounter during your day.

Pay close attention as you go through your day. As situations occur, write down anything that causes you stress, distress, or inconvenience. These might include things like:

  • Misplaced or lost keys, glasses, or your phone.

  • Had trouble getting dressed because of clutter in the closet.

  • Created an overly complicated organizational system that’s too difficult to maintain.

  • Had supplies tumble out of the bathroom cabinet every time it was opened.

  • Was late for an appointment again.

  • Ran out of milk, toilet paper, apples, or other household staples.

  • Was annoyed during kitchen meal prep because things weren’t organized in a useful way.

  • Woke up cranky because of sleep disruptions or lack of sleep.

  • Began the day feeling anxious and unsure what to focus on.

Notice the hiccup. Write it down. Choose one of the challenges and fix the problem.

 

 

 

2. Quiet Your Mind

When the noise upstairs gets too loud and clouds your thoughts, it can prevent you from seeing possibilities. How can you quiet the mind so you can move forward with clarity and purpose?

There are many ways to do this, including:

  • Journaling

  • Meditating

  • Sipping coffee or tea from your favorite mug

  • Resting

  • Reading

  • Breathing slowly with focus and intention

  

 

 

3. Declutter the Desk

Numerous studies show how clutter can negatively affect our mental health and well-being. Not everyone is affected by clutter to the same degree. However, if clutter bothers you, you may actually feel its effects viscerally. You might feel anxious, stressed, agitated, or have difficulty concentrating or relaxing.

One of the easiest ways to change how you’re feeling is by decluttering a small area. It doesn’t matter what you choose. Pick something with distinct boundaries like a desk surface, a comfy chair, or a coffee table.

Remove items that don’t belong. Route the outtakes to the trash, recycling bin, donation box, or rehome them elsewhere. For the remaining items, decide whether you want them to stay, let them go, or relocate to another spot.

Clearing space and surfaces is calming. With this simple reset, you’ll be more open to possibilities. 

The physical act of movement can encourage progress and possibilities in other areas of your life.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVOP™

4. Move Your Body

Sitting is passive. Not only does it make your body stiff and less active, but it can also affect your energy level and mood. Since transitioning from in-person to virtual work, I sit much more than I used to.

Movement has become even more important. I make sure to take breaks between virtual organizing sessions to walk around, stretch, take bio breaks, or get some fresh air. When I’m on the phone, I often walk around the house while talking. I incorporate other movements by doing yoga, exercising, walking by the river or in the woods, running errands, gardening, sweeping, or cleaning.

Some movement is spontaneous, while some is more intentional. It helps when I schedule time to meet a friend for a walk or go to yoga class. That adds accountability and keeps me committed to moving more.

Physical movement creates its own momentum. The physical act of movement can encourage progress and possibilities in other areas of your life.

 

 

 

5. Ask for Help

Have you ever faced a challenge that overwhelmed you? When that happens, do you try to solve it on your own or ask for help? I usually try to figure things out myself first. However, there are times when hiring someone or seeking advice is beneficial.

Recently, I experienced some frustrating tech problems with Mailchimp and Square while setting up the backend for my December workshop. While customer support offered a few insights, they didn’t resolve the issue, so I hired someone to help me. It was incredible how much less stressed I felt knowing someone would help me find a solution and fix the problem. I didn’t have to do this alone. It was wonderful having the personalized support to troubleshoot the issue, discuss options I hadn’t considered, and resolve the problem. Thank you, Lana Kitcher!

As a professional organizer, I help my clients get unstuck and move forward. I love helping and serving others. It’s inspiring to see what becomes possible when obstacles are removed.

Sometimes the answer to a problem is asking for help. When you receive the support you need, your stress and overwhelm decrease. You become more available to take the next steps and imagine what is possible.

 

 

 

 

Will Finding Solutions Make You More Receptive to New Possibilities?

Everyone gets stuck sometimes. What happens next is what matters most. There are many options, which include identifying the challenge, decluttering a small area, or reaching out for help. What hiccups during your day are keeping you frustrated and stuck? What helps you feel receptive to new possibilities?

Which ideas resonate most with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

 

  

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or disorganized? I’m here to help! Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s talk. I’m easy to reach.

Getting organized and making progress is possible, especially with support.

 
 
3 Helpful Things I Learned That Will Benefit My Virtual Organizing Clients

Attending organizing conferences is one of the highlights of my year. I learn interesting things, dedicate time to professional growth, connect with dear colleagues, and meet new people.

I just got back from the Institute for Challenging Disorganization’s (ICD) conference in Atlanta. Colleagues came from all over the United States and around the world, including Canada, Mexico, Spain, the Netherlands, and New Zealand. We learned together from experts on decision-making, time management, ADHD, autism, hoarding disorder, aging, dementia, and more.

Earlier this month, I participated in a meditation and writing retreat led by my dear friend and life coach, Yota Schneider. She shared a quote from John O’Donohue that feels relevant to the ideas I’m about to share. He said, “Nothing opens up the mind like the glimpse of new possibility.”

It’s the “glimpse” of what is possible that fosters hope and encourages change for my virtual organizing clients. I hope what I’m about to share will also be relevant and helpful for you.

 

 

 

 

3 Helpful Things I Learned at the Organizing Conference That Can Benefit You

1. Decision-Making Takes Energy

Melissa Gratias and Linda Samuels

Getting and staying organized requires making lots of decisions. One of the conference sessions about the brain and decision-making was presented by productivity expert, colleague, and fellow blogger, Melissa Gratias, PhD. She said, “The more choices, the more cognitively taxing.”  

In another session on chronic disorganization and aging, Beth Nolan, PhD, a gerontology expert, also discussed decision-making. She mentioned that one way we can help our clients with decision-making is by “being aware of the energy it takes.” Decision fatigue can become even more pronounced when compensating for physical changes or conditions.

Making decisions is an integral part of most virtual organizing sessions. I provide support to my clients and consider their energy level as they:

  • Weigh various options

  • Choose what to keep or release

  • Decide what step is next

  • Select what to include or exclude from their schedules


 

2. Change Barriers Can Be Overcome

Linda Samuels and Cameron Gott

Change was another topic that surfaced throughout the conference. In the session on tools to help your ADHD clients with their organizing goals, presented by Executive ADHD Coach, trainer, podcast host, author, and friend, Cameron Gott, PCC, he spoke about change.

Cam said there are many barriers to change, especially when ADHD is in the mix. The “ADHD hard place” exists in the space between being aware of the issues and actualizing the change you seek. Some of these ‘change’ barriers include:

  • Engaging in negative self-talk

  • Having lots of rules

  • Having difficulty prioritizing

  • Being challenged with activating

  • Experiencing a lack of focus

  • Getting easily distracted

One of the tools Cam suggested is using curiosity to bring about change. However, curiosity can also act as a barrier to change. As a barrier, it can appear as:

  • Doing endless research

  • Going down rabbit holes

  • Engaging in time sucks

However, Cam said you can reframe curiosity as a resource. He said, “Bring curiosity to a dilemma.” This will help you focus and take a more proactive approach.

While my virtual organizing clients desire change, they often face internal and external obstacles. However, with support and accountability, we work together to identify these challenges and try different ways to overcome them.

 

Bring curiosity to a dilemma.
— Cameron Gott, PCC

  

3. Connection is Essential

Carrie M. Lane

The last conference session, “Qualitative Research, Connective Labor & Professional Organizing,” was presented by Carrie Lane, PhD, an anthropologist and author of More Than Pretty Boxes – How the Rise of Professional Organizing Shows Us the Way We Work Isn’t Working.

“Connective labor,” which is “work that relies on empathy, human interaction, and mutual recognition,” was one of the ideas Carrie discussed. She referenced her friend’s book, The Last Human Job, written by Allison Pugh, a sociologist and author.

Carrie reminded us that “Our job as organizers requires the human connection – an intimate, nonjudgmental connection.”

While technology and AI keep advancing into our daily lives in many ways, nothing can replace human interaction and connection. I value the relationship I have with my clients. By building trust, showing compassion, and remaining nonjudgmental, I provide support as they work on growth and positive change.

 

 

  

Decision-Making, Change, Connection, and Virtual Organizing

There are many ways I support my virtual organizing clients. Are you struggling with making decisions, creating change, or feeling disconnected from others? What becomes possible when you get the help you need? Which ideas resonate most with you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

 

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or disorganized? I’m here to help! Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s talk. I’m easy to reach.

Getting organized is possible, especially with support.