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3 Useful Ways for Better and More Compassionate Time Management

You and I share at least two things in common. We both have 24 hours in a day, and our days are finite. Yet how we experience and use our time varies widely.

Perhaps you are time-aware. You know how much time you have and spend it intentionally. Or maybe you have difficulty keeping track of time, feel time-poor, are easily distracted, and never have enough hours to get things done.

If you think of your relationship to time on a scale from zero to one hundred, with one end representing a total lack of time awareness and intentionality and the other representing high time awareness and intentionality, where would you place yourself? Whether your number is zero or one hundred, several concepts can improve your relationship with time and help you approach it more compassionately.

 

  

Time Management Scale

Before I share the strategies, review the Time Management Scale to get a sense of where you are right now. This isn’t an exact science, but the scale will help you identify your strengths and challenges. Understanding your relationship with time, combined with the concepts I’m about to share, can be a game-changer for you.

How to Use the Scale

  • Reflect honestly on where you are today

  • Identify your target range and desired habits

  • Take consistent action to improve your score over time

Remember that small choices about how you spend your time today shape your future.


 

3 Ideas to Encourage More Compassionate and Aligned Time Management

There are three ways to align your time in a more compassionate and powerful way. As I mentioned earlier, the time available each day is fixed. Your life and the time you have left are finite. None of us knows how many days remain. How you use this precious resource shapes your life.

1. Energy

Have you noticed how your energy ebbs and flows throughout the day? For example, I have more energy and mental clarity earlier in the day, and my energy lessens as the day goes on. Matching high-brain-demand tasks, such as planning or writing, with the time of day I’m ‘fully charged’ works better for me. Lower-brain-demand tasks, like resetting spaces or grocery shopping, can be done when my energy is less.

As you plan your available time and how you will spend it, factor in your energy. A while ago, Executive Coach Marcy Stoudt introduced me to the reframing of time management as energy management.

It’s helpful to consider how you’re planning and using your time. One thing I’ve learned is how much longer tasks take when my energy isn’t aligned. For example, when I’m tired and my energy is low, it takes me two to three times as long to do certain tasks as when I’m well-rested and in my high-energy, brain-power part of the day.

Aligning your energy management with how you use your time is a compassionate practice.

Small choices about how you spend your time today shape your future.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVOP™

2. Priorities

Have you noticed that some priorities, especially those tied to values, are fixed while others are flexible? For example, family might always be a top priority, so you’ll drop everything if someone in your family needs you. Or, when planning, family considerations drive your choices.

Flexible priorities are tasks, goals, and commitments that matter but don’t require immediate action or have a set deadline.

Flexible priorities could include:

  • Projects with open deadlines

  • Buy groceries sometime this week

  • Meet a friend for coffee in the next few months

  • Edit belongings to downsize

  • Plant flowers in the garden

  • Clean out the garage this season

  • Improve sleep habits

  • Try a meditation app

When considering your available time, aligning your priorities with your values and clarifying which tasks are fixed or flexible can lead to a more compassionate way forward.

 

3. Reality

Ah, yes! The old reality check. Here’s where time management can go sideways. Many people I know, including clients, struggle to align their available time with how long tasks take. This is where optimism needs to be balanced with a realistic understanding of time.

Has this happened to you? I see it most often on ambitious to-do lists. For example, you sit down to write your daily list. You have twenty or thirty items and expect to do them all today because they’re all “equally important.” Yet as the day goes on, you’ve only gotten to a few items. It’s clear you won’t finish everything. The day isn’t over, and you’re starting to feel stressed and defeated. Believe me, I get it. Reality and intention are two very different things.

  • Reality Check 1: Not everything is equally important.

  • Reality Check 2: Your list is too ambitious to complete in one day.

  • Reality Check 3: Optimism is great, but balance it with a realistic understanding of your available time and how long tasks take.

  • Reality Check 4: Reduce the size of your list. Curate a daily list of 1-5 items. Get those done, then review the time you have left before adding more to your day.

When you stop planning for an ideal day and start planning for the day you actually have, you gain a greater sense of control, accomplishment, and ease.

 


 

Are You Ready to Bring a More Compassionate Approach to Time Management?

The number is 24, as in the hours in a day. The number of days you have left is unknown. You have choices about how to spend your time. Use understanding and compassion as you plan and decide.

What will that look like for you? Which time management ideas resonate most with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 


  

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed, disorganized, and time-stressed? Are you struggling to manage all your tasks, goals, and commitments? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s connect! I’m easy to reach.

Managing your time, getting organized, and living with more ease are possible, especially with support.

 
 
Does Clutter Make It Extra Hard to Find Stuff and Cause You Stress?

My clients often say that clutter causes them stress. Clutter-related stress can come from several sources, such as:

  • An overabundance of items to manage and maintain

  • Too much visual stimulation or overload

  • Difficulty making decisions

  • Being the recipient or holder of other people’s things, such as adult kids or deceased loved ones’ belongings

  • Accumulating things, yet rarely editing or letting go

  • Perfectionism

  • Overshopping

  • Executive functioning challenges that make it difficult to plan, categorize, prioritize, or sequence

  • Not establishing ‘homes’ for things

 

 

 

Where Is It?

I want to focus today on the last point about ‘homes’ for things. When you can’t find what you’re looking for, it’s stressful and frustrating. It can make the simplest task take twice as long because you can’t find what you need to do ‘x.’ Not knowing where your things are can affect your time and relationships, leading to lateness and causing stress with family, friends, or co-workers.

The challenge of not having ‘homes’ for things can show up in various ways.

  • Have you ever misplaced your keys and spent 30 frantic minutes looking for them, only to be late for a coffee date with your friend?

  • Have you ever tried to cook dinner and couldn’t find the pot you needed, the measuring spoons, or the recipe you wanted to use?

  • Have you ever gone to pay for your purchases at the local store only to realize you couldn’t find your wallet?

  • Have you ever been about to make an important call and couldn’t find your cell phone anywhere?

Do these scenarios, or anything like them, resonate with you?

When you can’t find what you’re looking for, it’s stressful and frustrating.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVOP™

The ‘Adult Version’ of a Childhood Song

A while ago, I found an anonymous Internet meme or joke that connects to the childhood singsong, “Head and shoulders, knees and toes.” Do you remember that one? If not, check out this short, silly video.

This meme is:

“The adult version of ‘head, shoulders, knees, and toes’ is ‘wallet, glasses, keys, and phone.’”

The song helps you identify and quickly locate your body parts. It’s useful to apply the same strategy to your belongings by creating ‘homes’ for them. When you think of the object you want, knowing it has a home means you immediately know where to find it.

You can use this song to:

  • Reinforce the value of having reliable homes for your belongings.

  • Create a home right now for the thing you’re looking for, so you’ll always know where to find it.

  • Lighten your mood and reduce stress when something is missing. A little humor can go a long way.

 

 

What Needs a Home?

As you think about your belongings, which things do you frequently misplace or don’t have a place for? Pick one and create a home for it right now. Build from there.

What is one consideration you use when creating an effective home for your stuff? Have you tried creating homes that don’t work? Can you describe the difficulty? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

 

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed or disorganized? Is the clutter in your life causing stress and frustration? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s connect! I’m easy to reach.

Decluttering, getting organized, and living with more ease are possible, especially with support.

 
 
Goldilocks Inspires Useful Clues for How to Really Let Go

Do you remember the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears? One of the main themes is Goldilocks’ search for what felt “just right.” One chair was too big, and another too small. She rejected both. However, when she found the one that fit, she knew it was the one for her and used it. The chair was right-sized and “just right” for her.

At the core of the Goldilocks philosophy is finding the sweet spot, the optimal place where things feel balanced, comfortable, and supportive. Who knew Goldilocks could help with letting go?

Are you struggling to let go of things, ideas, habits, or commitments? If so, a Goldilocks approach could help. Her decision tree went like this:

“This bed is too hard.”

“This bed is too soft.”

“This bed is just right.”

What will “just right” look and feel like for you?

 

 

 

 

Why is Letting Go Overwhelming?

There can be a lot to sort through, which can make letting go feel overwhelming. Clutter can accumulate from:

  • years of acquiring

  • gifts and inherited items from others

  • postponed decisions

  • emotional attachments

  • unclear or nonexistent organizational systems

  • being overscheduled

  • unclear boundaries

  • not following through on closure loops

Time is part of the equation, too. You need time to make decisions and to align what you own with who you are and what you need now. This can be tricky if you feel stuck in the past or are holding onto things for an aspirational future or self.

However, when you start making decisions based on who you are now and your current needs, it brings greater clarity as you let go.

 

 

 

Are You Sacrificing the Present?

Many years ago, I attended an ICD class on consumerism, minimalism, and experimentalism, presented by my friend and colleague, Lynne Johnson. She shared a quote about letting go.

How much of your present are you willing to sacrifice in order to save remembrances of your past to ponder in your future?
— Anonymous

The question aligns with the Goldilocks philosophy of the three-point decision tree, but from a time-based perspective. Consider what you are holding onto in relation to the:

  • Past - Are you willing to hold on to things from your past that keep you stuck and no longer serve you? Can you release them and move on?

  • Present - Are you willing to let those things take up physical space and mental energy, distracting you from the present? Can you let go and be more aligned with the present?

  • Future - Are you holding onto things with a glimmer of hope that you will revisit, use, or need them someday? Can you say goodbye to them in service of an unencumbered future?

 

 

What DOES Letting GO Look Like?

When you release what you no longer need, you invite more ease, better life alignment, joy, and growth. Even releasing one thing makes room for what’s most important, essential, and valued by you.

Letting go can look like this:

  • Donate the never-used pots and pans to make the ones used regularly more accessible.

  • Release rarely-used purses to make room for the ones you do use.

  • Recycle the papers that ‘time took care of’ so you can focus on what’s current.

  • Skip the to-do list to enjoy a beautiful spring weekend day.

What does letting go look like for you?

 

  

 

The Goldilocks of Letting Go

What happens when you begin to align your life so it feels “just right?” Will you release what no longer belongs, brings you joy, or is useful? Will letting go bring you closer to living your best life now? When you release what's blocking your energy, space, and thoughts, you create room for calm, growth, and happiness.

Which ideas resonate with you most? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

 

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed or disorganized? Do you want to let go of the unnecessary but feel stuck or unsure where to start? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s connect! I’m easy to reach.

Letting go and getting organized are possible, especially with support.

 
 
One Powerful Question: A Shortcut to Help You Release and Let Go

What’s not to love about shortcuts? They aren’t always equally effective. However, when you find one that helps you reach your desired goal more quickly and is less taxing on your brain, that’s a good thing.

Recently, I read an article in Real Simple about interior designer Young Huh and how to create spaces that feel calm. Huh just published a new book, A Mood, A Thought, A Feeling. When starting work on a room, Huh asks a simple question,

“What can I take out?”

Her philosophy encourages you to remove what doesn’t belong and surround yourself with what feels calming and peaceful.

Huh’s question caught my attention. I thought about how helpful it could be during the editing, letting go, and organizing process. There are many ways to approach getting organized. One method is to identify what doesn’t belong, or what you no longer need or want. Or, as Huh says, “What can I take out?”

Spring’s arrival prompts me to clear the landscape and make room for the blooms. What can you let go of to create space for calm and growth?

 

  

Letting Go Starts with Removing Things

Less Clutter, Less Noise

Often, I hear clients describe their environment as:

  • “My house is filled with too much clutter.”

  • “There is so much clutter, I can’t even think.”

  • “I can’t find anything because the things I want and don’t want are jumbled together.”

  • “The clutter paralyzes me.”

  • “I feel chaotic because of the clutter and disorganization in my home.”

Do any of these statements resonate with you? If so, consider asking yourself Huh’s powerful question: "What can I take out?”

This question is a good starting point.

What can I take out?
— Young Huh

More Great Letting Go Questions

Not all questions work for everyone. If Huh’s “take out” question doesn’t resonate with you, consider some alternatives, which you can find in my article: 21 Questions to Exercise Your Letting Go Muscles.

A few of my favorites are:

  • Has it overstayed its welcome?

  • Is it worth the real estate, energy, and maintenance?

  • Does it support your current needs?

  • What will become possible for you when you let go?

Releasing the Stuff

Are you ready to start letting go? If so, here’s a method to try.

  • Choose a room to work in.

  • Gather boxes and trash bags. These will help you easily sort what’s being removed from that space.

  • Label and set up those containers for > Belongs Elsewhere > Donate > Trash > Recycle.

  • With the question in mind, “What can I take out?" start in one corner or area of the room.

  • Focus on releasing items you no longer want or that belong elsewhere. Place items into their designated sorting containers.

  • After you finish one area or surface, move on to the next.

  • Repeat until the room has been decluttered.

  • Route the items you let go of to their ‘homes.’

  • Return to the room and notice how it feels. Does your space feel different? What are you noticing?

 

  

 

What Does Less Feel Like?

When you let go of things that no longer serve a purpose or belong elsewhere, the energy in the space begins to shift. This, in turn, influences how you feel when you're in that environment. Our possessions affect our space, time, and mental clarity. Releasing excess items helps you feel calmer, more focused, and less distracted.

Which ideas resonate with you the most? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 

  

 

How Can I Help?

Do you feel overwhelmed or disorganized? Do you want to let go of the unnecessary but feel stuck or unsure where to start? I’m here to help! You don’t have to do this alone. Virtual organizing is an extraordinary path forward – Local feel with a global reach.

Let’s connect! I’m easy to reach.

Letting go and getting organized are possible, especially with support.